Why do we often experience loneliness despite being surrounded by people? Being lonely is a pervasive sense of isolation and detachment, not just a temporary experience of being alone. It’s a spiritual test that makes us face our deepest desires and fears.

We are more connected than ever yet we find ourselves more isolated.

In actuality, loneliness is something that should be welcomed rather than to be afraid of. In fact, loneliness can be a sign of depth. It is a call to connect with our truest nature. It is a call to discover our true purpose in life and listen to the whispers of our hearts to pursue our dreams.

But how do we get comfortable with being alone, with our own thoughts? How do we transform it to make it a spiritual journey?

The first step is acknowledging our thoughts, observing what comes to our minds, what scares us, and what makes us uncomfortable about being alone. For most people, the sheer silence of being alone in a room makes them anxious. Talk to your inner child the way you wished someone had spoken to you when you were a child. Write down, or journal your thoughts. If possible, simply sit in silence and explore our emotions.

The second step is to practice self-compassion and self-love. Since we were children, it was ingrained in us that our actions yield rewards, thus leading us to constantly seek validation. In the process of pleasing others, we frequently disregard our own priorities. Behind a façade of perfectionism, we criticize ourselves, compare ourselves to others, and bury our true selves. But the truth is that we are all flawed, and that is what makes us unique.

Forming authentic connections with others is the third step. We only need a few meaningful relationships to thrive. We need people who accept us for who we are, who listen to us, and who support us on our journey.

Loneliness is not a curse, but a blessing. It is a gift that calls us to embrace the depths of our souls, awaken our inner selves, and establish a spiritual connection. It’s a gift that pushes us to love life, love others, and love ourselves. Let’s embrace being alone, and learn to appreciate the wonder and beauty of who we really are.

Cultivate solitude in your life, and you will discover a world of depth and meaning beyond your wildest dreams. Loneliness is merely the absence of others, but solitude is the presence of the self. And when you are truly present with yourself, you are never truly alone. – Beau Taplin